Wisdom & Foresight

1. Change is both challenge and opportunity. Everything is a result of change. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
2. Don't wait for your ship to come to shore and safety. Swim out to it as fast as you can. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
3. Every day, work on learning something that you didn't know the day before. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
4. For us to go anywhere, we should know where we are standing first. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
5. Have that child inside you inspire you … not control you. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
6. Try to make each day of your life a masterpiece! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
7. Being broke was something I could work on because it was temporary … something I had to deal with and turn around. But being poor is a mindset I never entertained. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
8. I prefer to walk alone on a path of principles and truth than to thrive and succeed in a field of lies. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
9. If you don't like where you are right now, you need to act, move and change the picture. You are not a tree! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
10. In the physical universe, the only thing you can manage is what you are doing at this exact moment, and follow through with your plan to the end. When you look back, suddenly you have built a future. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
11. Inside you, at this moment, is the power to do things you never thought possible. Such power becomes apparent and rises to the surface as you begin to operate consistently in line with your values and beliefs. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
12. Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all you desire. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
13. Life is great, and then we show up! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
14. People are always looking for and working hard to "get what they want." What they are missing is that they can "want what they have," which is freedom. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
15. Want to be happy? Stop complaining! Want to be effective? Stop complaining! Want to be successful? Stop complaining! Want to be fulfilled? Stop complaining! Want to enjoy your life to the end? STOP COMPLAINING! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
16. We generally change ourselves for one of two reasons: Inspiration or Desperation. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
17. What happened to you in your life is insignificant when compared with what is happening to your inner self. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
18. When you alter your thinking and behaviors you alter your life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
19. Who you are what you do and the way you do it all depends on who you are for yourself and your point of view of life. Keep relating to yourself as the power and possibility that you can and will generate. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
20. Don't forget … YOU are the only person living your life! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
21. Who you are is not your home, your checkbook, your car nor the people with whom you associate. Who you are is your passion, your vision and your dreams. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
22. You can't break out of your box and beyond your limits until you recognize that you are in one. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
23. Our lives exist and occur in the domain of language, especially in the internal conversations we have with ourselves. We have a say in the matter. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
24. No leader has led anyone by only pointing out the way. They lead by going there first! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
25. You can't be right and effective at the same time. Pick one! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
26. I am amazed by how many civilized human beings can live without life's necessities, but they can't live without stories, drama and suffering. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
27. Some people say that they are not creative and that creativity is hard. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
28. What part of having fun, inventing new realities, being scared and making mistakes, correcting them and causing something new is hard? ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
29. Be flexible with the big stuff in life. Then you won't get bent out of shape when it comes to the small stuff! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
30. Life will bring you lots of pain and suffering without your own personal contributions. You should pay attention to bringing some fun, joy and play to your life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
31. Your past is over and gone, your future is not here yet. At this moment, in the present, you as an adult, a fully functioning human being, can be responsible for your reaction to the events of your life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
32. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
33. We have a choice to choose excellence as a way of being and to practice it as a way of living until it becomes habit. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
34. We love to complain about everything that is happening to us every day to everyone and point fingers. We forget that we are the cause of all our complaints! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
35. No one is more important than you; if you are not here to function nothing else will work! You learn about yourself and you correct what needs to change and suddenly your greatness will surface. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
36. In hard times, in the lonely times, in the upsetting times, the only thing you can rely on is your character. How do you respond to people and life itself during the hard, upsetting and lonely times? Your answer is a reflection of your character. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
37. We take our coaching clients from where they are to where they want to be, because if they could do it by themselves they would have done it by now. If you are in coaching, push harder and if you are not in coaching, get yourself to a coach! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
38. Your stuff does not make you who you are. Your money and your possessions do not make you who you are. Your position, your title or your job does not make you who you are either! Your peace of mind, your principles and your vision make you who you are. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
39. By postponing your plans and your actions the only thing you accomplish is postponing your dreams. Maybe you do this procrastination dance because you are afraid your dreams will come true! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
40. After many years of studying, reading, writing and learning, I came to realize that "I don't know anything" and when I look back I can see all of my life's troubles started and developed because "I knew" something that was not so! I have the courage to admit it. Do you? ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
41. We always have questions: What should I do? Where should I go? How should I be? How to... How to ... How to... Do you ever think about why we always ask questions and why we never like our own answers? Perhaps we already know the truth and we don't like it! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
42. I am sure you have heard "knowledge is power." Actually it's not! Implementation of knowledge is power. Knowing makes no difference if we do not apply what we have learned in life. And we are dumber than dirt if we think there is nothing left about ourselves to know. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
43. What are you saving yourself for? When will you go after your dreams and your passions? If not now, when? If not your dream, what? Nothing is more urgent than the dreams and passions that make you you! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
44. When we are young we know everything! There is nothing that anyone can teach us, and we will fight to prove our point. Then we get older, and we face the fact that everything we thought we knew was really the thing that caused our greatest suffering! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
45. You are not powerless in life ... you have options! As long as you are responsible for the consequences of your choices and your options, you are powerful! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
46. You can be right or you can be effective. You cannot be both at the same time. Give up being right so you can learn and nurture your mind. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
47. Your day will be exactly the way you say it will be. Who you are today and tomorrow is who you declare yourself to be today or tomorrow. It is all in YOUR hands and YOUR mind. Watch what you say to yourself about yourself and about today! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
48. You can see the true color and real character of others when they are in a position of power. Have you abused your power over others? They could be your spouse, your children, your employees, your team members or your friends. If you did, it means you do not have a vision that you can grow into. You are just protecting yourself from your ugly past! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
49. Start your new year with a commitment to not be right! Give up all preconceived notions you have about yourself, others and life itself. This is a blank page for your life; fill it with lots of possibility, productivity and power. Love yourself, others and life. This year will be the best year of your life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
50. There is something inside us that keeps us alive and vibrant. That is our passion, how we see the world and how we see ourselves in that world. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
51. Real education is not achieved in school! Learn about yourself, who you are, how you relate to yourself, others and what you do, and you will learn what it takes to be effective in life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
52. Look at the balance of your checkbook, the truth about your finances! Look at the scale. This is the truth about your weight! Look at the number of people in your immediate circle of friends and loved ones. This is the truth about your relationships with others. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
53. Don't resist and avoid your past or anything that makes you afraid. Embrace your fears and get to know them so you can be familiar with your issues so that you will not repeat mistakes. Don't run from your fears; face them! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
54. One of the most common causes of our biggest issues is that we do not know what is real! We keep making the same unreal judgments and we are surprised when things have not altered around us yet! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
55. Every anniversary of 9/11 is the type of day to remind us that the only things that make a difference in our planet are peace, respect, communication and love within. Everything would work out if we were to consistently practice these values. Hate, greed, control and domination cause more wars and more murder. We shall start within ourselves, practicing our values, thereby adding to the peace of the world. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
56. Why wait until the New Year to make your resolutions for change? You know exactly what you have to do to accomplish what you want in your life, to be happy and to succeed. Leave your laziness and entitlement attitude behind and go forward into each day with a whole new view of what is possible for you and your life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
57. The difference is obvious...have to or love to. Find that thing in your heart that you really want to do and go for it! You will not have another chance but this lifetime. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
58. We will get rewarded for our commitments, hard work and our endurance. Sometimes, not by monetary compensations, but with the relationship we establish with ourselves, and who we become out of that hard time. Nobody can take that glory from us. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
59. How many times have we laughed at people's ideas that sounded different or looked different!? I can talk for myself, because I know I have done that in the past and now I have become one of them because I have found my true self-expression in that. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
60. Try to be different and not be just one of many. You heard the phrase; "Dime for a Dozen". So the question worth asking is this: How can I do it differently, the way nobody else has ever done it? ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
61. If you want to be remembered, be liked or be followed, do something new, wonderful and amazing, so people can learn something new and wonderful from you that nobody else has done yet! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
62. Keep getting related to your "Life Vision" and what your life is about and you will never get lost. Maybe beaten and tired, but not lost! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
63. How many times have we said things that we wish we could take back just in the split second after it left our mouth!? Many...so, maybe we should listen to them before they leave our mouth. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
64. I have tried to transform my disasters to the unique opportunities that it holds within, like a diamond in the rough... Not always succeeding but always coming out of it with my neck up. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
65. Life just looks the way you are looking at it. Good, bad or ugly it is all yours...there is nothing wrong with life until you and I say there is. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
66. One of the hardest things in life is to stand for what is right and what is needed. It is the testament to one's character. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
67. It is very interesting that as we get older we really watch what people do versus what they say. Maybe we are getting wiser with age and have less tolerance for nonsense. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
68. When we are younger we love to listen and get enrolled to all the possibilities people are talking about. When we get older we love to see how many of those possibilities become reality. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
69. No possibility, no alteration equals no change, no future, no action, no results. Start looking at what the next step is into your future. It is right there in front of you. Maybe you need to let go of your fear. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
70. We all have some fear of looking below what is on the surface for ourselves and even in some cases others. It is always hard but the outcome and the awareness is priceless, it will open up so many doors to our hearts and souls. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
71. You and I are the only people who can push through our comfort and the desire to do things the easy way and hopefully without any hard work or inconvenience. There is nothing wrong with operating in the ordinary, it is just not extraordinary! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
72. We can never make any difference in our own life, in the lives of others, in our community, our country or the world itself if all we are wondering is what others are thinking about us. The world is full of people like that. We owe it to ourselves and the world to be brave and outrageous and to do the right things that will benefit everyone and the world itself. You know what you need to do, do it! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
73. Don't let ignorance get the best of you. There are no limits on human genius and creativity. There are no limits on the possibilities generated and invented from human thinking. In your life look at each and every corner and think differently each time you are looking at it. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
74. Start writing down how many times you talked yourself out of doing something you knew was good for you or was necessary for you to accomplish and achieve your personal and professional goals... there are a lot! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
75. We all live our lives by default and going through the motions. What most of us forget is that everyone around us is affected by those decisions and actions. So, I think investing in personal development is one of the best investments we can make in our life time. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
76. Considering the alternatives against being courageous; which is fear, reservation, cowardliness or indifference, I always choose courage, because after the courageous act I can look in the mirror and respect the man I see...I have nothing to lose but my own self-respect. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
77. We all have to look within for the answers we are looking for. I can tell you with certainty that there is no resolution to what makes us whole outside of who we really are within. Get to know yourself inside and out and you will be more certain about who you are. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
78. Start living and enjoying these days! Be productive, be active and at the same time pay attention to all of life's details around you. I promise there are colors you have missed in your garden. You have missed the beautiful lines in the face of someone you love, or the reflection of the lights and colors in the sky. I promise you have not heard the whispers of your loved ones or listened to them the way you could have. Live now! There is no tomorrow, you only have right now! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
79. The difference between mediocrity, un-fulfillment or a regretful life and great results, outstanding performance or fulfilling outcomes or just those painful moments is, that we chosen to face our fears little longer. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
80. Never leave home before getting present to your greatness, the gift that this day is, and opportunity you have to play bigger than yesterday. That will put smile on your face. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
81. Have you noticed that right before you say something nasty, or do something that you would later regret or hurt someone's feelings; you have a little thought!? Manage those thoughts before showing their ugly heads and you will have a peaceful and content life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
82. We can't make anything before we can dream it being done. All of the greatest achievements are imagined in someone's mind first, someone who dared to dream and to say; "I can see it, it can be done." ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
83. I can speak for myself; All of my schooling is very handy and supportive in my life, but what made me grow and develop as a man is what I learned from life experiences; my mistakes, when I become responsible for my attitude, when I hold myself accountable for my results, when look at myself as the source of my happiness or suffering and from my level relatedness to others. I learned one thing; I don’t know. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
84. We all are born, we have grown, we will continue growing in spite of our biology and we all will die... but some of us will live compared to some, who just exist... the difference in quality of our lives exists in the difference we made by learning and teaching what we learned. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
85. The universe has its own design or plan, we can get inspired to do some deep alterations in our lives, to be more empowered and transforming our view of life, or we can do some surface deep changes to just get by... the only difference is the sustainability and length of the change. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
86. Look around and see what are you feeding your mind, there is so much trash in TV, magazines, newspapers and media that makes no difference to read or watch... even the news is not about real news any more... they are all designed to create a culture of consuming and not thinking and letting others decide for you... It is mostly junk that would damage our mind and our way of making decisions in life, which would impact out future results. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
87. Our complaints are so boring and hollow... nobody is interested in hearing them, because they are engaged to listening to their own complaints... we shall spend our time and energy designing and building our lives based on what turns our soul on fire, what turn us on to enjoy our days and make our heart sing. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
88. Who you are being about life, projects and accomplishments is making a bigger difference than what you are going to do about them. Being will absolutely compliment your Doing, they together are the key to your success in all aspects of your life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
89. Ordinary is the norm, unfortunately it is something that society has accepted as the way of being, almost nobody pushes themselves forward or people around them are not willing to get tough with them, accepting nothing but excellence from each other! On the other hand, extraordinary becomes abnormal... some people look at you like you are from Mars when you are speaking with passion and stand for something, or when you are not willing to be small and ordinary... so call me crazy and abnormal but, that is what I want to be, extraordinary. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
90. Every day we need to create a great practice to build strong courage and endurance, to deal with everyday life obstacles. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
91. Our out-of-integrity practices always come back and catch up with us sooner or later, it is not construed by time, next year, next decade, fifty years from now.... Doesn’t matter; that train is never late! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
92. Get to actions when you feel passionate about something, don’t wait, it is right now, it is always right now before you lose your passion. And if you are not acting, you have to deal with what is next, your regrets! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
93. There is always room to learn from others, especially if they have built some mastery in what they do. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
94. Everything is in different perspectives and many of our interpretations. That makes us the geneses of our view by being aware of our perspective and our ability to come with many other interpretations... good, bad or ugly. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
95. Be happy with what you have and don’t regret what you don’t have. If you desire something, see why you want it, what that thing would bring to you and your life, for how long it would last and how not have it would affect you? ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
96. If we look closely we can see that our happiness is build upon many small and insignificant happy moments. Most people are missing the precious life by dismissing these amazing moments by waiting for that fantasy happiness to arrive. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
97. We always see our worse in other people. We always say the nastiest words to others when we actually can’t stand ourselves. We always lie to others because we are used to lie to ourselves. Others are just a mirror reflection of who we are for ourselves. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
98. For some people suffering is the blood line for getting attention and soaking life out of the people around them. For some people there is no end to drama and justified stories about why they can’t be happy and whole. Nothing makes them happier than dragging you into their small world to justify their lack of fulfillment. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
99. You are bigger than what you think you are. You are much more powerful than what you think you  can be. You have much more influence over what you would like to accomplish, than what you think. Your possibilities will last much longer than your fear, resignations and despair. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
100. Suffering is what we add to our daily life by promoting stories over facts and interpretations over what is real. It is not there until we drag it in, kicking and screaming. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
101. There is a level of freedom and happiness available in accepting life the way it is, and not chasing the illusions that have been created for us by other with agenda. That does not mean not following our dreams and accomplishing our desires; it just means have your own standards of living based on your own values, not others. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
102. Life is happening now, the only time that exists is now, and there is no other time in reality. Past time is gone and future is coming soon as some form of now! So enjoy your now time, now. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh